Wednesday, 12 October 2016

Why People Cheat On Partners

Boredom, abuse and being “young and stupid”. These are among the excuses that cheaters have revealed for two timing their partners. The questions “people who cheated on their SO, what was your logic?” on the AskReddit forum recently sparked almost 2,000 responses, studies show that 60% of men and 45% of women will cheat during their marriage, and that almost one in three couples will be affected by an affair. The results prove that relationships are very complex and it can be difficult to judge those who stray away.

Slow Down Breathing To Speed Up Your Work

Take a long, slow breath. Really, it’ll help. The idea that breathing exercises can somehow calm you down is an ancient one – yoga isn’t a recent development, you know. But few people understand exactly how breathing can relieve stress on a physiological level and can even be used to increase workplace productivity. The answer lies in the autonomic nervous system, which is responsible for the automatic function that keeps our body ticking. While most autonomic functions – such things as heart rate and digestion – are out of our conscious control, breathing is unique in that we can take charge if desired. Not only that, but invoking different breathing patterns can have a sort of cascade effect, shifting our entire autonomic nervous system between a state of rest and relaxation (scientists call this zone the “parasympathetic” state) and the ready to rumble state of fight or flight (this is called the “sympathetic” state). In the layman’s terms, different breathing patterns can serve as a quick and often easy way to manipulate your emotional and physiological state in ways that allow you to be calmer, less stressed, and more productive.

Our lungs are filled with receptors that tell our brains whether we are inhaling or exhaling. As we inhale, we activate the sympathetic state (the fight or flight system). As we exhale, we activate the parasympathetic state (the calm and collected system). This is why yoga style breathing exercises often involve long exhalations. For maximum productivity, you want to breathe in a way that will keep you in the parasympathetic zone so you are calm and stress free, but not too far into it to the point where your mind is mush. To achieve Office Zen, researchers suggest a breathing practice called Coherent Breathing, which features equal length inhalations and exhalations at a very slow pace, without holding your breath. For most adults, the ideal breathing rate is four and a half to six full breaths per minute. According to researchers, this technique is ideal because it strikes a balance between the benefits of both the parasympathetic and sympathetic states and can be done with little effort after a bit of training. Studies have also linked it to a reduced stress and increased cognitive performance.